Emotional Affair, What It Is And Is Not. Are you involved in an emotional affair?

What is the definition of an “affair”. An affair is a relationship of secrecy, deception, and betrayal. That is the bottom line.

If you or anyone you know has been involved in an affair, please be clear about this. These are the keys to look into deeply, and in that exact order. I will explain more later, as I will now go into what defines and “emotional” affair.

The term “emotional” affair is basically another term used to describe a relationship sharing intimate feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and dreams in a format of secrecy, deception, and betrayal. Sex may or may not be involved, however, remember that intimacy does not necessarily involve sex. Intimacy is sharing of yourself completely with no restrictions.

It matters not, any secret rendezvous, regardless of whether it is physical, sexual or emotional is indeed an affair and qualifies as an illicit relationship. It does not promote inner joy or peace!

What most people miss; is to stop and ask themselves these questions before they get involved in any type of affair. Why can’t you be intimate with your spouse, lover, or whomever you are committed to? Why don’t you want to? What is preventing you from sharing this deep level of yourself within this current relationship? And if you have shared this within your relationship, are they responding?

This leads to another question to ask, what needs aren’t being met in your current relationship? These questions are so very important because they always lead to self-discovery. Your answers will bring you to what you need in a committed relationship, but more importantly, to what you need within yourself.

Find a way to meet these needs within your own self, and you will have no need to have an affair. Make the choice to become independent from others, for the more you depend on their meeting your needs, the more you are bound in dependency, much like any addiction. This is a very precarious situation to be in, for you may very well be in the clutches of those who abuse your dependency.

Any type of affair, including an emotional affair,, in my opinion, is simply an opportunity to ask these questions and become more intimate with yourself. There are so many who don’t even know themselves, yet who want to, and these relationships and affairs are perfect opportunities to do just that.

You must be willing to be open, honest, and trustworthy with yourself by looking into the depth of your soul first, and then, once you surrender to the soul, sharing this intimacy will be effortless and beautiful!

There will be no need for any type of secrecy by engaging in any type of affair, including an emotional affair.