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What is the definition of an “affair”. An affair is a
relationship of secrecy, deception, and betrayal. That is the bottom line.
If you or anyone you know has been involved in an affair,
please be clear about this. These are the keys to look into deeply, and in that
exact order. I will explain more later, as I will now go into what defines and
“emotional” affair.
The term “emotional” affair is basically another term used to describe a
relationship sharing intimate feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and dreams in a
format of secrecy, deception, and betrayal. Sex may or may not be involved,
however, remember that intimacy does not necessarily involve sex.
Intimacyis
sharing of yourself completely with no restrictions.
It matters not, any secret rendezvous, regardless
of whether it is physical, sexual or emotional is indeed an affair and qualifies
as an illicit relationship. It does not promote inner joy or
peace!
What most people miss; is to stop and ask themselves these questions before they
get involved in any type of affair. Why can’t you be
intimate with your spouse,
lover, or whomever you are committed to? Why don’t you want to? What is
preventing you from sharing this deep level of yourself within this current
relationship? And if you have shared this within your relationship, are they responding?
This leads to another question to ask, what
needs aren’t being met
in your current relationship? These questions are so very important because they
always lead to self-discovery. Your answers will bring you to what you need in a
committed relationship, but more importantly, to what you need within yourself.
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