There is no reason to live in fear; learn how to safely confront your emotional abuser.

One of the first steps you must take before you confront your emotional abuser is to accept, they are in fact emotionally abusing you.

Be clear on what emotional abuse is!

You will have to come to terms with the emotionally abusive behavior, and not downplay or sugar-coat it.

Acknowledge and trust how you feel small and powerless around this offensive individual. Accept the truth of this within yourself first, before you make any decisions to confront this person who mistreats you. This can be very difficult to do at first. Nobody wants to accept that their parent, spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, boss, or anyone else, that is close to them is emotionally abusive.

This step requires extra help from those you can trust, and from those who have experience in dealing with this situation. Do not rush this process, as the acceptance time frame is different for everyone. Take your time and seek help. Once you feel you have accepted their behavior is abusive, you can then move on to the next step.

Your next step, now that you are firm about the behavior, is to decide how important this relationship is to you, and if it is worth changing. If so, be specific about the changes you desire. Think of actual incidents and how you would want them to change so that your goal is to exist in peace rather than turmoil.. This will help you when you confront the person. You will also need to make a plan should the person refuse to acknowledge their behavior and refuse to take any steps to modify it. You will also need to be willing to follow through, if necessary, by enforcing  the boundaries you have created to keep you from any further abuse.

The third step is to take action by confronting the person. This is best done if you and the person agree on a time to discuss important issues. You do not need to tell them what it is you’d like to discuss, just that it is important that you have a conversation that needs both your undivided attention. Be sure that you are relatively calm and firm when approaching this person.

When the time comes under which you have agreed to discuss important issues, then you can tell the person how you feel when they behave this way, and use the actual incidents. You will need to be firm in telling them how you will not accept this behavior any longer, and if it continues, you will be forced to sever ties in your relationship with them (and really mean it).

The fourth step is to follow through on your intention. Really be firm in your desires, regardless of what this other person does or doesn’t do. You’ve done your part in confronting them, and it’s up to you to stand your ground. You deserve to be deeply loved, honored, respected, valued, and cherished and under no circumstance should you expect any less!

You have my support, as well as many of those around you whom you trust. You have support from your angels, guides, higher self, and God, for they cherish your beautiful self just as you are! Unconditional love is all around you, but you must first be willing to recognize and accept that you deserve it at every moment, no matter what, so that you can feel this love. Remember that you are very, very loved and have an absolute right to be treated in a loving manner. You start by loving yourself and by confronting your emotional abuser in a safe environment.