In 1884,Thomas Haynes Bayly, was the person ,who said absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Absence from another, including absence from your self can indeed teach you about how the heart grows fonder.

Thomas Haynes Bayly, was one of England's more versatile writers, wrote novels, plays, poems, political articles, and songs. In 1844 a poem titled "Isle of Beauty" appeared in Bayly's two-volume Songs, Ballads, and Other Poems. It is here that the following romantic words , "absence makes the heart grow fonder", are found.

Any loving thought about a person, animal, place or any living thing, does in fact, make the heart expand with gratitude and grow more open. Being loving allows you to maintain emotional competence; the more you think loving affectionate thoughts, whether that person is near or far, the more you are giving devoted love, to that individual, as well as creating more loving affection towards yourself as well. The less you will feel alone and abandoned, the less you will feel a need to control everyone, especially your lover, family and friends and the less you will inflict yourself and/or others with emotional abuse.

You will also free yourself from any past or current negative experiences and emotionally abusive relationships, including those whom attempt to dictate what you should look like, feel like and be like; where you have given others control over you, out of the fear of lacking love.

In the article “What is Love?” I explain more about how the tender process of self-love actually works. I highly recommend thinking as many kind, friendly loving thoughts as you can, about everyone and everything, especially yourself and including your past and or present abusers. You can also listen to beautiful melodies that will assist you in maintaining a presence of love and a peaceful existence.. Love and the existence of it or the absence of it, begins with you!

You will begin, as others have, to feel the inner joy healing your heart and the warm-heartedness of your own true nature. Allowing you to trust and be responsive to whom you really are. You will recognize how absolutely wonderful and magnificent you really are and will be less likely to engage in any unhealthy secretive relationships! It’s an amazing, joyful feeling, where all dreams and desires come alive!

You will also start to understand how; just because the person or thing you adore has gone away; your love has not gone away as well, with whoever or whatever is temporarily or permanently at a distance from you.

Baley may have understood this very concept, when he first stated, absence makes the heart grow fonder. The absence or presence of another has nothing to do with whether you feel love or not. You always have love in you, around you and of you, as long as you are devoted to yourself.

You are love!  Therefore you need not be concerned that someone's absence will cause you to love more or will cause you lack of love, resulting in pain and stress. Your absolute full presence with yourself will accomplish this in every moment.

Let me assist you in knowing and feeling love for and about yourself, and in the process, you will soon discover that you have absolutely no dependency on anyone or anything else outside of yourself. You will acknowledge and sense the joyful  feeling of love, that results in your heart feeling so alive and free, it could actually sprout wings and fly. You will be able to share easily all the love that you are!

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