Emotional abusers who won’t let go. How to Free yourself!

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Ask Pamela how she can help you to get an emotional abuser to let go

Emotional abusers who won’t let go. Emotional abuse is another form of controlling behavior. You can be free of this offensive mistreatment and torment!

In fact, any abuse, be it physical, sexual, spiritual and emotional, whether it stems from a past life or the present, is controlling behavior. Yet, let's first be clear about the difference between misuse and abuse. Misuse refers to an incorrect use that may not lead to harm. To misuse is to use something wrongly, to abuse is to misuse something so badly that you damage it.

Most people suffering from emotional abuse often have not learned how to competently demonstrate their feelings and suffer from the lack of emotional maturity. They are also people who have a tendency to be dependent and demanding upon another to fulfill their emotional needs. They do not trust in themselves to supply their needs and constantly seek out others to prove they are loved.

You have probably suffered a great deal of damage one way or the other. There are many symptoms of emotional abuse, and so many different ways that your self-esteem has been stolen from you.

You have probably been mishandled, offended and hurt; especially when you believed all you wanted was to be loved. You may be anxious , rather than being naturally peaceful, because you are entirely overwhelmed with the suffering rather than the joy you were seeking.. You can be especially impaired with injury if your maltreatment continues because you are still surrounded by emotional abusers who won't let you go. Learn how to resolve the issue of emotional abusers who won't let go.

However, I am not going to discuss the symptoms here. The truth is, if you are here you are already aware of the symptoms and that you are in desperate need of aid in order to help you establish the preservation of the healthy life style you deserve. You can learn the secret of inner joy so that no one outside of you robs you of your happiness.

Rather, I am going to discuss what happens when you discover your partner, husband, wife, or any close person whom you give your love and trust to, is in fact, an emotional abuser, and refuses to let go by continuing to be a controller of you.

The first thing for you to know is that because they are this way, they will not change with your help. You must first stop abusing yourself with corrupt thoughts of self condemnation. You must also completely relinquish every thought, and belief, that you can and will change the abuser.. Even if you can successfully guide them to the appropriate counseling, don't count on it happening, even if they promise to do so. (at least for a very long time).

I understand how desperate life appears when you are engaged with emotional abusers who won't let go and I also know how bleak this sounds, but bear with me, there is a silver lining here which I will explain later.

Your best defense, is to begin to cherish yourself and grow independent of them. Being independent of their words, actions, thoughts, behaviors, beliefs, and any other form of both covert and overt manipulation, will restore your self respect and protect you! Grow independent of their happiness, which means you are not responsible for what they feel. You cannot and will never make an emotionally abusive individual happy! They normally are suffering from a lack of self confidence and can only gain momentary good thoughts and feelings about themselves by abusing another in some way. Once they get hold of someone, they will thrive on being one of many emotional abusers who won't let go.

You are not responsible for their happiness, or any other feelings they are experiencing. Each individual is responsible for what they feel. Most people are conditioned to believe that not they but someone else has the power to make them think, feel or act. You must make some statement regarding "you are only responsible for and to yourself " , your daily mantra, for it will bring begin to release you from the chains of those emotional abusers who won't let go and move you more towards the inner joy and love you truly deserve. This will be your silver lining – only it’s so much brighter than you could ever imagine!

The second thing to know is that because they are controllers, they won’t let go so easily, if in fact at all. They are equally terrified of being betrayed and abandoned, as you are.. This is not meant to put you into fear mode, but it is meant to wake you up to understand that you need to understand what love really is and will also need sufficient assistance with ending this type of damaging relationship; that apparently desecrates your very soul. Do not hesitate to get help from a trained and experienced counselor/s in this area, as well as reporting to the police should you ever feel threatened.

Enforce every possible wall of separation between you and the violations projected upon you by the abuser and seek all the help that is available. Many abusers, especially those who won't let go, isolate their victims, coercing them with the false belief that support does not exist for them. You need to find the quiet space within you where the truth exists and you can begin to reduce the stress and pain you are suffering from.

Please remember any type of abuse is still abuse and it is crucial to get the law on your side. Note: Please do not ever report abuse to the police, only to turn around and stay in this relationship, believing that a temporary separation will make their heart grow fonder and they will become the loving respectful person you dream about.. Not only do you deserve to be in a relationship filled with love, joy, trust, respect, honor, etc., you also deserve to have the law on your side. If the police see that you are making no attempt at leaving this abusive relationship, they are likely to not be on your side at all, because they understand this type of abuse does not change or go away with a promise to never do it again. They know it takes genuine intent, not just a desire to make the transition. It takes action; the action of getting real help for yourself.

I was personally in this type of depraved relationship, and all of this knowledge helped me transition from a dismal life that seemed devoid of any joy to a life that was full and rich with love and joy. I can assist you with your growth of independence, so that you too may have the full and rich life you so deserve and you can obtain your freedom from all controlling behaviors and emotional abusers who won't let go!